Eye-witness testimony: Rawlette excerpt #13

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness—We have now seen some of the independently verifiable aspects of near-death experiences, but the evidentiary value of NDEs doesn’t stop there. While aspects verifiable by third parties are important corroborations of the objective quality of the experiences, there is so much more to the near-death experience than what can be verified by an independent observer, and we would miss a lot by not listening carefully to all aspects of the testimonies of those who have had the experience themselves.

To begin with, those who have had a near-death experience are almost universally convinced of the reality of life after death and see their fear of death vanish. That is, those who have actually had the experience—including those who were previously die-hard atheist physicalists—are sure that consciousness goes on after permanent bodily death.

Another aspect of NDErs’ accounts that weighs against the hallucination hypothesis is the fact that 71% of NDErs say that their NDE memories are clearer and more vivid than those of other events. In fact, one common observation made by NDErs is that the experience was “realer than real.” Compared to what they experience in the NDE, normal life seems like a dream.

NDErs also commonly report that, during the NDE, they not only perceive more, with 360-degree vision and the ability to perceive events at a distance in space and time, but they also describe their thinking as being faster and clearer. Dr. Bruce Greyson reports in his 2021 book After that, among more than a thousand NDErs he’s surveyed in his 45 years of studying the phenomenon, “half described their thinking during the NDE as clearer than usual, and almost as many described it as faster than usual.” 

The vast majority of his NDErs who described experiencing life reviews reported them as “more vivid than ordinary memories.” Some even noted that they were able to perceive more detail in their life review than when the events actually happened to them. An NDEr named Tom Sawyer, for instance, reports that, during one scene of his life review, he was able to perceive things so clearly that he could have counted the number of mosquitoes present. An NDEr named Peggy says that, during her NDE, “I did not have the limited consciousness I have on earth. It felt like I had 125 senses to our normal five. You could do, think, comprehend, and so on, you name it, with no effort at all. It’s as if the facts are right before you in plain sight with no risk of misinterpretation because the truth just is! Nothing is hidden.” 

Another woman, a Canadian anthropologist, reports that, during her NDE, “I could see the tiles on the ceiling and the tiles on the floor, simultaneously: three hundred degree [sic] spherical vision. And not just spherical. Detailed! I could see every single hair and the follicle out of which it grew on the head of the nurse standing beside the stretcher.”

Some NDErs feel they suddenly understand huge quantities of information about the universe, only some minor portion of which they are able to retain when they return to their body. According to surveys conducted through the Near-Death Experience Research Foundation website, 30.7% of NDErs felt that, during their NDE, they understood everything “about the universe.” In fact, experience in an NDE is so different from normal experience that NDErs have trouble even describing it. NDEr Steve Luiting reports, “The language spoken [during the NDE] was much, much more complex and could literally encapsulate experiences. Even the memories when coming back into my body flattened, simplified, and became symbols of what really happened. I believe this flattening happens simply because the human brain can’t understand a world so much more complex and possibly so alien.”

It’s intriguing to consider the idea of “super-survival,” the idea that our post-death selves may actually be a significantly enhanced version of the selves we currently experience ourselves as having. As one NDEr has said, “Our identity will continue to be—in a greater way.” But whether or not our consciousness is in fact enhanced after the death of our bodies, the most important point to recognize here is the sheer number of near-death experiencers (again, 4-15% of the general population) and their overwhelming conviction that what they’ve experienced is indicative of survival of consciousness after the permanent death of the body.

As philosopher Jens Amberts emphasizes in his forthcoming book Why an Afterlife Obviously Exists, “at least some NDErs were equally as skeptical of the existence of an afterlife or of the idea that NDEs are or can be indicative of an afterlife as we may be now, and at least some of them also shared the intensity of that skepticism, and at least some of them also shared whatever justifications we may think or feel that we have for that skepticism. And yet, the NDE thoroughly and justifiably convinced them that there really is an afterlife....” 

When so many eye-witnesses with reasoning faculties similar to our own all say the same thing, we do well to pay attention— especially when these reports offer us a glimpse into a state of being that, to the rest of us, is the equivalent of a locked room. Rather than insist that it’s impossible for what’s in that room to be different than what we experience outside it, we would do well to take seriously the testimony of those who have the relevant firsthand knowledge.

At the same time, despite all the compelling evidence from NDEs that consciousness doesn’t depend on a functioning brain, it’s still true that NDEs are not actually testimonies from people whose bodies are permanently dead, but only people whose bodies are provisionally, reversibly dead. Despite their conviction otherwise, it is still logically possible that their experiences do not accurately reflect what we will experience when our bodies permanently die and degrade. 

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

Future and shared death: Rawlette excerpt #12

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness—A final important point regarding paranormal perception during NDEs is that about a third of those NDErs who report experiencing a life review recall that that review contained visions of future as well as past life events, and at least some of those future events have then taken place, even when they were still 20 or 30 years in the future at the time of the NDE. In a case reported to Kenneth Ring, a 10-year-old had an NDE in which he received the information “You will be married at age twenty-eight” and “You will have two children.” Eighteen years later, during the year following his twenty-eighth birthday, he met and married his spouse, and they went on to have two children.

A related phenomenon is that NDErs sometimes report meeting their future children during their NDEs and/or meeting the future children of other people. I’m not aware of any cases that provide strong objective verification of this beyond the fact that, when these children are born, the NDErs recognize them as the ones they saw in their NDE, but the mere fact that NDErs report these interactions with future children dovetails with memories some children have of a pre-birth existence, memories we’ll explore in the sections Memories of a Previous Life and Memories of the Intermission Period Between Lives.

Shared Death Experiences

Yet another strike against the “hallucination of a dying brain” explanation for NDEs and a point in favor of their portraying objective aspects of reality is the fact that near-death experiences can often be shared by others. Sometimes these are other people who are near death at the same time,  but generally they’re perfectly healthy people. Often the shared death experience happens when they’re in the same room with the dying, but if there’s a strong emotional bond, they may share the dying experience even at a distance. The experience generally includes one or more typical NDE elements: floating out of the body, seeing the deceased loved ones of the dying person, encountering a light, even sharing in the dying person’s life review.

Dr. Raymond Moody, who is famous for popularizing NDEs with his 1975 bestselling book Life After Life, in 2010 co-wrote a book called Glimpses of Eternity that is dedicated to this related phenomenon of shared death experiences. Moody reports that, in giving lectures around the world, he has found that 5-10% of the members of his audiences have had a shared death experience, which is only slightly less than the percentage of his audience members who’ve had NDEs.

An especially evidential aspect of shared death experiences is the fact that, just like apparitions and dreams of the deceased, they sometimes happen simultaneously to multiple living people present at a death. For instance, Moody relates the experience of four siblings and a sibling-in-law who all perceived some of the same extraordinary phenomena while they were gathered around their dying mother. At first, all they saw was a bright, unearthly light, but just after their mother took her last breath, vivid, cloud-like lights gathered and formed themselves into a bridge-shaped entrance way. The children then saw their mother come out of her body and go through this portal. It was a joyful experience for them, and one of them even heard “beautiful music,” though the rest did not.

In another multiply shared death experience, two sisters who were by their mother’s side as she was dying of lung cancer saw the room start to swirl. When it stopped, they found themselves standing beside a much younger version of their mother and started to see scenes from her life. Many of them were from before the girls were born—like their mom’s first boyfriend and her heart-breaking breakup. They even discovered more recent events they’d known nothing about, like the fact that their mother had a crush on her widowed neighbor. One of the sisters says, “What we saw was so real that we thought we had died too. For months it was beyond belief until we finally accepted it.”

The fact that multiple healthy individuals can perceive NDE phenomena as someone is dying shows that these phenomena are not mere side effects of drugs or physiological changes that occur as the brain shuts down. They appear instead to be real events that nevertheless can’t be perceived by everyone.

 

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

 

Apparitions during NDEs: Rawlette excerpt #11

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness - "Further evidence for the reality of expanded perception during NDEs comes from cases in which NDErs had the experience of perceiving events at a location other than that of their body and someone at that location also perceived an apparition of the NDEr. Rivas, Dirven, and Smit catalog four such cases.

In one of these, reported by critical care physician Dr. Laurin Bellg, a young man was so estranged from his dying mother that she refused to allow him into her hospital room. He was hanging out in a nearby bar when he was amazed to see her walk in. He started to go to her, but other people passed between them, and afterward she was gone. Around the same time, the woman (whose body was actually still lying in her hospital bed) woke up and told her daughter, 'I had the strangest dream. I dreamed that I was in a bar and I saw my son sitting at a table crying, and he got up to start coming to me. And I got scared and I woke up.'

"In another case cataloged by Rivas, Dirven, and Smit, this one investigated by Dr. Melvin Morse and Paul Perry, Olga Gearhardt of San Diego, California, was receiving a heart transplant. Her whole family had gathered at the hospital during her surgery, except for her son-in-law, who had a phobia of hospitals. At 2:15am, the new heart would not beat properly and then stopped completely. The resuscitation process took hours, but finally her new heart was persuaded to function properly. Meanwhile, the son-in-law, at home, woke up at 2:15am to see Olga standing at the foot of his bed. She was so lifelike that he thought it was actually her, that her plans must have changed and, instead of getting surgery, she had come to his house. He asked her how she was doing, and she told him, 'I am fine, I’m going to be all right. There is nothing for any of you to worry about.' When she disappeared, he got up and wrote down the time and what she had said. The next morning, when Olga came out of surgery, she mentioned 'the strange dream' she’d had, which appears to have been a near-death experience. She not only had the experience of being out of her body watching the doctors operate, but she went to her family in the waiting room and tried to communicate with them. Unable to get through, she then decided to go to her son-in-law at his home, where 'she was sure she had stood at the foot of her son-in-law’s bed and told him that everything was going to be all right.'

"These cases of reciprocal apparitions don’t just provide evidence for the reality of the near-death experience but also give us further evidence with regard to apparitions of the dead. The fact that apparitions of those near death are experienced in much the same way as apparitions of the deceased and that NDErs have been able to report back on their subjective experience of being at the location in question makes it even more plausible that apparitions of the deceased (some of which occur long after death) also reflect their conscious presence."

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

NDES increased perception: Rawette excerpt #10

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness - "Another strike against the hallucination explanation for NDEs is the sheer number of cases in which NDErs experience increased perceptual abilities. While it frequently can’t be verified that this increased perception happened precisely at a time when their bodies were in cardiac arrest or had no brain function, the mere fact that, while their bodies were compromised in some way, they were able to experience more than they would be able to when their body is functioning normally is a crucial indication that perception and bodily function do not always go hand in hand, and can even be inversely correlated.

"For instance, in a case reported by Dr. John Lerma, an 82-year-old man had an NDE in which he experienced floating out of his body in the hospital trauma room. From a position near the ceiling, he saw a coin sitting on the right corner of the eight-foot-high cardiac monitor. He could see that it was a quarter dating from 1985. After he was resuscitated, he asked his doctor, Lerma, to check whether the quarter was really there, so he could know whether his experience had been real. Using a ladder, Lerma verified that the 1985 quarter was just where the patient had seen it.

"In another case, this one reported by Drs. Kenneth Ring and Madelaine Lawrence in their article 'Further Evidence for Veridical Perception during Near-Death Experiences,' a patient at Hartford Hospital in Connecticut reported having an NDE in which she was pulled upward through the floors of the hospital until she was up above the roof looking at the city skyline and her attention was drawn to a red shoe. A skeptical physician later went onto the roof and discovered a red shoe there.

"Other NDErs have had verified perceptions of things as unexpected as their wife and daughter discussing taking cuttings from a tree in a hospital courtyard, a person they thought was a health nut buying a Snickers bar from a vending machine, both of their grandmothers suddenly taking up smoking, and details about the amputation of a leg in a nearby operating theater.

"Janice Miner Holden reviewed 93 reports of physical events observed during NDEs and found that 86 were fully accurate, 6 contained some error, and only 1 was entirely wrong. Some researchers have attempted to do controlled studies of perception during cardiac arrest by placing hidden targets high up on hospital shelves, out of the normal visual field of patients. So far, these studies have only had 12 patients who reported leaving their bodies during an NDE, and none of them reported noticing the target."

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

NDE verified perceptions: Rawlette excerpt #9

Almost everyone is familiar with near-death experiences (NDEs), in which people momentarily die (or come close to dying) and then, upon regaining consciousness, describe having had experiences such as floating out of their bodies, seeing the whole scene from up above, going into a tunnel where they met deceased loved ones, seeing a review of the events of their life, and even entering a beautiful, light-filled realm where they met God. Surveys indicate that somewhere between 4 and 15% of the general population has had a near-death experience, and among those who have survived cardiac arrest, more than one study has found the proportion of those experiencing an NDE to be as high as 23%. While attempts to explain NDEs without appeal to survival of bodily death abound, none of these purported explanations is able to account for all of the characteristics of these experiences.

Verified Perception During Cessation of Brain Function

One of the most common skeptical explanations for near-death experiences is that they are the mere hallucinations of a dying brain. That is, (1) the body of the person having the near-death experience is not actually dead during the experience, just dying, and (2) their experience is just a hallucination created by the brain in this extreme state. One of the most important pieces of evidence that refutes this explanation is the existence of cases where NDErs report seeing or hearing events that can be verified to have taken place while they were in cardiac arrest and without brain function.

Titus Rivas, Anny Dirven, and Rudolf H. Smit have collected a number of cases of verified paranormal perception during NDEs in their 2016 book The Self Does Not Die, and they devote an entire chapter to cases of awareness and perception during cardiac arrest. One example involves a man who was found “unconscious, stone cold, and apparently clinically dead out in a meadow.” Medics tried to resuscitate him on the way to the hospital but were unsuccessful. On arrival at the hospital, his body was “ashen gray, with livor mortis (in which blue-black discoloration occurs where blood pools in the lowest areas of the corpse) and blue lips and nails.” He had no blood circulation and no heart rhythm. Rivas, Dirven, and Smit emphasize that activity in the cortex of the brain ceases about 15 seconds after cardiac arrest, eliminating the possibility of any complex conscious experience. By the time this man was brought into the hospital, he had been in cardiac arrest for a great deal longer than 15 seconds. At the hospital, a nurse removed the man’s dentures before continuing resuscitation efforts. It then took an additional hour for those resuscitation efforts to be effective enough for the patient to be transmitted to the ICU. About a week later, the patient spoke to the nurse who had removed his dentures and said that he had watched the nurse remove them. Not only that, but he said he’d seen the nurse put them on the pull-out shelf of a cart that had lots of bottles on it. The nurse confirmed this was what he had done: he’d put the man’s dentures on the pull-out shelf of the crash cart.

In another case, exceptionally well-documented, a woman named Pamela Reynolds was undergoing surgery for a brain aneurysm when she had an NDE. Throughout the procedure, Reynolds was under anesthetic, had her eyes taped shut, and had loud clicks and white noise playing in her ears through earbuds, but she nevertheless found herself able to perceive events going on in the room around her. Reynolds experienced herself as floating above her body and over the surgeon’s shoulder, and she was later able to accurately describe the specific type of saw used by the surgeon as well as the case that contained its interchangeable blades. She also reported hearing someone remark that the arteries in her right groin were too small and then someone else suggest the left groin. She was surprised by this conversation as she hadn’t known that her brain operation would involve draining the blood from her body through her groin.

Nevertheless, the exchange she described had taken place, even though multiple persons who had been present in the operating room at the time confirmed that there should have been no way for her to perceive these things. Interestingly, Reynolds never reported hearing the loud clicks that were playing directly into her ears at the volume of a lawn mower or a subway train going through a station. That is, her perceptions of sound did not seem bound to what was being received by her ears.

Now, the verified perceptions just described occurred in an early stage of Reynolds’ surgery. What is even more impressive than this is what she experienced near the end of the procedure, because by that time, not only was she completely anesthetized, but her body had been cooled to a severely hypothermic temperature, her heart and breathing had been stopped, and blood was drained from her head. It was during this part of the procedure that Reynolds reported perceiving two more things she shouldn’t have been able to. The first was that the operating room staff was listening to the song “Hotel California,” and the other was that they “shocked” her twice while restarting her heart. One of the neurosurgeons in attendance confirmed that the staff had indeed listened to “Hotel California” and that her heart had to be restarted twice. This is not a number that could have been easily predicted, as the number of necessary attempts varies.

Some might argue that perceptions like those of the dentures and of Reynolds’ resuscitation efforts could be obtained by the NDEr after resuscitation, by using psi to look into the past and see what happened while they were unconscious. However, it’s hard to see any independent motivation for this hypothesis, beyond the desire to cling to the notion of brain-dependent consciousness at all costs. Furthermore, if time is no barrier to our capacity for psi, this implies that our consciousness can transcend time, and in that case, it’s not clear that the concept of death—of our being alive at one time and dead at another—is even coherent. If we can access the past psychically, then there is an important sense in which survival necessarily exists, as the “past” consciousness of our loved ones is still accessible to us in the present.

  

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

Apparent calls from the dead: Rawlette excerpt #8

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness — Besides three entire books dedicated to this topic—D. Scott Rogo and Raymond Bayless’s Phone Calls from the Dead, Callum E. Cooper’s Telephone Calls from the Dead, and Laurent Kasprowicz’s French volume Des coups de fil de l’AU-DELÀ?—I have come across examples of phantom phone calls in at least 11 other sources.

Typically, in these cases, someone answers a ringing phone and hears their deceased loved one speaking to them from the other end of the line. The message is usually very short, although sometimes an actual conversation takes place. The voice of the deceased is generally (but not always) recognizable. As with apparitions and dreams, these calls sometimes come to more than one person at approximately the same time, and they sometimes come to friends or neighbors of those for whom the calls appear to be intended, as if to emphasize that the calls are not just figments of a grief-fueled imagination.

Consider a case reported by Dr. John Lerma. A hospice patient of his named Mary Esther had just passed away, and the nurses were attempting to call her son, but his line was continually busy. While Lerma was at the nurses’ station asking for an update on their attempts, the phone rang. The caller ID said the call was coming from Mary Esther’s room. The nurse answered but quickly passed the phone to Lerma. She appeared frightened by what she’d heard on the other end. Lerma says he heard a lot of static and a faraway voice that repeated the phrase, “Tell my son I’m okay.” The nurse said it sounded just like Mary Esther. They then rushed into her room to see who might have placed the phone call but saw no one there besides her dead body. Thirty minutes or so later, Mary Esther’s son arrived at the hospital. He said he, too, had gotten a call from his mother. It had happened after her death but before he was aware she’d died. She told him over and over, “I am okay. I love you. Don’t worry about me.”

This next case, taken from Kasprowicz’s book, is an example of a more extended conversation, one in which the deceased passed along important information about a dangerous medical situation. An American man named Russell Reynolds had just been driven to a motel in Boise, Idaho, to prepare for undergoing open-heart surgery the next morning. His caregiver was with him in the motel room when the phone rang. She answered but got an odd look on her face and told Reynolds it was for him. Reynolds had no idea who it could be since he hadn’t told people about his trip. A male voice on the other end of the line asked if he was Russell, and when he said yes, the man told him not to go see his surgeon the next day. “It’s not your turn to die,” he said. Reynolds asked who was speaking, and the man replied that his name was Oscar. The only Oscar that Reynolds knew was a coworker who’d died of cancer the year before. Reynolds could hear a bunch of other voices in the background of the call and asked where Oscar was. Oscar replied, “I’m between heaven and earth.” Then he again repeated that Reynolds shouldn’t have the surgery, that it wasn’t his turn to die, and the line went dead.

Reynolds went to the hospital the next day as planned but asked to speak to his surgeon. A few minutes later, Reynolds noticed the surgeon pacing outside his room. When he finally came in, he told Reynolds the surgery was going to be postponed. Another doctor spoke with Reynolds later and explained that the surgeon who’d been scheduled to operate on him had lost his last three patients. Reynolds then had open-heart surgery a week later with a different surgeon, and there were no issues.

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.

Dreams of the deceased: Rawlette excerpt #7

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette writes in her essay, Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness — Dreams are a very common means by which people believe themselves to have contact with their departed loved ones. The wishful thinking hypothesis can be hard to dismiss with regard to most dreams, but some do contain elements that can be independently verified, as we are about to see.

I’ll first point out that many of those who believe they’ve had contact with their deceased loved ones in dreams remember these encounters as being much more vivid than an ordinary dream, to the point where they often don’t think they should be called “dreams” at all. “I was asleep,” says one such experiencer, “but I was not dreaming.” This man says he encountered his deceased daughter in a place “beyond” dreaming and that leaving it felt like the opposite of waking from a dream. The realm where they met “was like being in the middle of eternity.” This feeling of a hyper-real dream is not in itself proof of anything, but it is one small piece of evidence that the process that creates these dreams of after-death contact may not be entirely the same as the process that creates our normal experiences during sleep.

As with apparitions, stronger evidence for survival is offered by dreams that happen before the death is known, provide information the dreamer wouldn’t otherwise have had, and/or happen to more than one person at a time. Let’s look at some examples that fit both of these last two categories.

A month or two after his father’s death, Robert Waggoner had multiple dreams in which his father was showing him a suit in his (the father’s) closet, apparently wanting Robert to get something important out of the pocket. Waggoner didn’t want to bother his mourning mother about the matter, but when he heard from his niece that she had also had a dream about his father wanting her to get something out of the closet, he decided to investigate. Even though much of his father’s clothing had already been donated to charity, there were one or two suits left, and in one of their pockets was discovered a whole set of cherished family photos.

In a case collected by Dianne Arcangel, two people who had never met both had repeated dreams of the same deceased person, a man named Murphy who had owned a vacuum cleaner shop. He had been a mentor to one of them and a father or stepfather to the other. Both of them described the same setting in their repeated dreams: a house in oddly vivid/fluorescent colors with a picket fence and a sign in the yard that read, “At Peace with Jesus.” Furthermore, they both saw Murphy standing on the sidewalk with the sign to his left. The dreamer who’d been mentored by Murphy, a man by the name of Charles Vance, says that Murphy repeatedly asked him to tell his widow to look at a specific location in their house—“in the hall, at the dead end, just south of the bedroom to the right of the light socket”—because he’d left something inside the wall there. When Vance finally got up the courage to share this message with Murphy’s widow, she opened the wall in that location and discovered a stash of thousands of dollars that no one knew Murphy had ever had. Besides being a tandem dream that provides new information, this dream also comes to a bystander, someone who was not a family member of the deceased and was not the primary intended recipient of the information communicated.

There are even tandem dreams that demonstrate some level of interactivity and the evolution of the deceased’s consciousness through time. In another case collected by Arcangel, the deceased demonstrated evolution of consciousness by the adoption of a new strategy in pursuit of his goal. A woman named Debra dreamed of her deceased stepfather coming to say goodbye. When she told her mom about the dream, her mom “became very pale, saying, ‘I dreamed about him too, but I told him I was afraid. I said, ‘Go tell Debbie.’”

Interactivity and the adoption of a new strategy by the deceased is also evident in the following case collected by David Ryback and described in his book Dreams That Come True. A single mother and her two children (one of whom was Ryback’s informant for this case) were all ill and needed the help of the mother’s parents to move to a warmer climate. However, the mother and her father were in one of their frequent periods of not speaking to each other, and so she refused to ask him for help. Then one night she dreamt that her deceased grandmother came to her door and said, “Bill [the father] will help, if you just let him know. Call him.” The young woman refused, insisting her father would have to make the first move. She woke up thinking how weird it was that her grandmother had referred to her dad as “Bill” instead of “Wilbur,” the name she’d always called him while she was alive.

A couple days later, she got a letter from her dad, asking her to call. They patched up their relationship, and both the woman’s parents came to help her move. On the road to their new home, she asked her mom whether her grandmother had ever used the name “Bill” to refer to her father and learned that she had started calling him this about three months before she died. The young woman then decided to tell her mother about her dream. When she did, she discovered that, on the same night, her father had also had a dream visit from her grandmother, where she told him it was urgent he contact his daughter and said it was up to him to make the first move, because his daughter wouldn’t do it. That’s when he got up to write the letter his daughter soon received.

One final point with regard to dreams: as with living people who remember appearing to others during out-of-body experiences, there are living people who remember appearing to others in dreams and whose appearances have been confirmed by the dreamers in question. For example, dream researcher Fariba Bogzaran reports that she intentionally set out to dream of visiting an old friend who lived in another country and whom she hadn’t seen in almost 20 years. She succeeded in dreaming about the old neighborhood where they’d grown up together, and then she decided to try making her way to her friend’s new house, which she’d never visited in waking life. “I find the street where she lives and walk towards her house,” says Bogazaran. “The color of the door is pale blue. I ring the bell and she opens the door. I am overjoyed to see her. We cry and hug each other with overwhelming emotion. Embracing her feels absolutely real. The intensity of the experience wakes me up.” The next morning, Bogzaran wrote a letter to her friend with a detailed description of the dream. On the same day, her friend wrote her own letter, describing her own dream that included greeting Bogzaran at the front door.

Dreams like the above show that it’s possible to interact with other people’s consciousness through dreams and make it all the more plausible that dreams of the deceased are sometimes genuine communications.

 

Sharon Hewitt Rawlette has a PhD in philosophy from New York University and writes about consciousness, parapsychology, and spirituality for both academic and popular audiences. She lives in rural Virginia. She received an award from the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies for her essay “Beyond Death: The Best Evidence for the Survival of Human Consciousness,” available at https://bigelowinstitute.org/contest_winners3.php. Footnotes in the essay are not included in these excerpts.